when parents separate, children should not

Decades of peer reviewed research consistently show that children are most emotionally secure when they maintain meaningful relationships with both parents after separation or divorce. While family transition can initially lead to increased anxiety, sadness, or behavioral challenges, these effects are not inevitable or permanent. Outcomes are strongly shaped by parenting quality, interparental cooperation, and the degree to which children are allowed to remain connected to both parents.

Studies demonstrate that high conflict, disrupted parent-child relationships, and prolonged absence of one parent increase the risk of emotional and behavioral difficulties. In contrast, children who experience stable caregiving, predictable routines, and active involvement from both parents show greater resilience and improved emotional adjustment over time.

Shared parenting arrangements, when supported by cooperative co-parenting and child centered decision making, are associated with lower stress, stronger identity development, and healthier long term emotional outcomes. Research confirms that it is not separation itself that harms children, but the loss of meaningful parental relationships and exposure to unresolved conflict.

Put Children First grounds its advocacy, education, and community programs in this evidence. By promoting equal shared parenting, respectful co-parenting, and early mental health support, the organization works to reduce harm, strengthen families, and protect the emotional wellbeing of children navigating family transitions.